“You’re Ahead, Not Behind.”
Yesterday, we talked about peace and bandwidth.
When you let those urgent emotions roll through without scrambling to soothe them, what you’re left with is deeper clarity and far more aligned decisions.
Today, comes Reason #3 for why spiritual people struggle:
They try to fit in.
We could have also called this section, “They don’t know how ahead they are.”
As different as these two statements may feel, they’re a part of the same larger thread.
We’ve had a lot of conversations over the years about loneliness.
From what we’ve seen, it’s one of the most common and intense emotions spiritual people feel.
If it isn’t romantic relationship, it’s friends.
If it isn’t friends, it’s family.
If it isn’t family, it’s a romantic relationship.
As spiritual people, it’s only normal to want to be embraced by the world.
After all, we feel like we’re here to do something significant.
We’ve been shown visions of ourselves helping the world in a way that feels almost too big to imagine.
In a way, that’s the feeling that drew us to spirituality in the first place.
“There must be more to life than this,” led to, “Holy crap. Reality is not what it seems, and I’m here to change it for the better!”
But how could you ever have that impact on the world… if you’re alone?
As we already talked about, most people aren’t going to understand you, because you’re different.
How could you possibly change the world and be so entirely misunderstood at the same time?
Here’s the thing that almost no one realizes, that starts to immediately solve this inner conflict:
Spiritual life happens in a series of phases.
There are distinct chapters to this divinely guided sequence, and almost none of those earlier chapters involve other people or “impact.”
This is another one of those things you probably don’t want to hear.
But chances are, if you’re feeling lonely, and want nothing more than to fit in, deeper relationships probably aren’t in the cards right now.
Understanding this can be painful, but it can also be uniquely liberating.
It’s how you get your bandwidth back.
Now, it’s important to note that you’re always going to have the free will to do whatever you want. That’s the nature of this reality.
You have the ability to spend time with anyone you want, romantic or platonic, regardless of whether they’ll help you (or harm you) in the long run.
Hopefully, you know that. Divinity is never going to stop you from a relationship.
But when you’re following your intuition and living a soul-aligned life, you’re going to feel guided away from a lot of people, a lot of the time.
That can be confusing at first (especially in that peak emotional intensity), but if you look at it long enough, it starts to make a lot of sense.
You’re only ever guided to things that are good for you, so why have you gotten that guidance, time and time again?
Well, if the only relationships available to you right now keep you silent, insecure, and playing social games in exchange for your soul, are they really beneficial?
Is that “having an impact,” and “getting yourself out there,” or is it just chasing unaligned and underwhelming affection?
To bring yesterday’s discussion back into this, would you still pursue those friendships or relationships from your place of Peace?
In the long run, if we allow loneliness to overtake us and let unaligned dynamics take us away from our soul, it’s unlikely that we’ll get very far along our lifepath.
Relationships, after all, are some of the longest and most painful detours available to us.
There’s absolutely going to be a point along this path where you’re engaging with the world more directly and have plenty of people around you.
But right now, what’s most important?
Earlier we said there were two sides to this story:
“They keep trying to fit in,” and “They don’t know how ahead they truly are.”
This is where those stories overlap.
Being an intuitive person, you’re walking a highly unique, divinely guided path with distinct phases.
Phase 1 is about getting your own biology to work with you, not against you.
Being free from the feeling of loneliness, even when it’s most extreme, means having the inner freedom to be exactly who you are no matter the social consequences.
When you try to fit in anyway, you’re not just shrugging off that liberation and freedom.
You’re forgetting how ahead you truly are.
Unaligned friends can’t hold space for you, because they haven’t felt what you’ve felt.
An unaligned romantic partner can’t give you the relationship you want, because they can’t fully understand who you are.
You’re different.
As difficult as that can be to see, the depths you’ve thoroughly explored, most others haven’t even touched.
Deep down, you know this.
You’re not just some oddball who can’t fit in and find good friends.You’re simply ahead of your time.
Even now, you’re being liberated from the frantic urges of loneliness, an emotion that (if you’ve noticed), most every other person around you can’t stand to feel.
Think back to your various friend groups over the years.
How many of those relationships were truly soul aligned win-win dynamics?
How many of those people were guided to each other by divinity, because they each had a unique key for each other, to fulfill their life’s mission and purpose faster and more effortlessly?
How many of those dynamics were soul aligned?
When you really look around, most people’s friendships are little more than mutually beneficial distractions.
“Distractions from what?” you might ask.
Distractions from this exact feeling—intense and overwhelming loneliness and the core desire to be loved, approved, seen, and celebrated.
Divinity has been showing you these dynamics for years now.You’ve intuitively felt the odd shallow connections, and you’re craved something deeper.
You weren’t craving what others already had… You were craving what you felt was truly possible.
You were craving soul-aligned relationships.
What if you weren’t wrong about that possibility?
What if you could have exactly that?
And what if that was precisely what divinity was guiding you toward, even now?
This is why “you’re ahead of your time.” We don’t just throw around these terms willy nilly. We mean it.
Even now, you’re being liberated from the overwhelming emotional desire to be loved and accepted at any cost.
Because, sometimes, the cost truly is too high.
As enjoyable as those mutually beneficial distractions can feel, they aren’t deep, synergistic, or even neutral.
They take you away from who you are and what you’re doing here.
The person we’re forced to be in those unaligned dynamics chips away at our resolve to express our very purpose for being here on this planet.
We play games.
We self-censor our truth.
We hide our soul, and play a character.
That’s the exact opposite direction of where divinity is trying to take you.
That’s the exact opposite direction of where you, yourself, are trying to go!
But when you know this, and you accept that it’s simply going to hurt for a while, you are suddenly free.
You’re free from the emotional manipulation of sitcom television, social media, and Hollywood movies—subtly telling us that everyone is loved and accepted for exactly who they are, except us.
The reality is, very few people are loved and accepted for who they are.
That sucks, but it’s also the reality we live within.
Being manipulated is easy. We just follow our feelings and “put on some thick socks.”
But being truly free is difficult—we feel the full weight of that emotional manipulation, and simply stand still.
We can try to fit in all day, but we’re only caving to our emotions.
We’re forgetting how far ahead we truly are.
Even now, you are being guided by the most powerful force in all of existence—God itself—to fully liberate you from unaligned dynamics, and guide you to your truest expression.
That’s happening, right now.
It has been for years.
But when you know it’s happening, it’s suddenly a little less painful.
It’s almost exhilarating.
“I am being liberated by God to transcend this emotion, and to become capable of what I know I am here to do.”
We will never have an impact if we are afraid of losing the approval of unaligned friends.
It’s just a fact of life that, at some point, we absolutely will “lose them.”
We are absolutely going to lose that approval.
We are absolutely going to blow up the relationships that keeps our soul at arm’s length.
Of course we will.
The question is, will it be now or later?
That was Reason 3 in the Top 5 Reasons Spiritual People Struggle (and how to overcome them):
“They try to fit in.”
We hope you’re enjoying this series so far! Next, we’re getting into yet another reason why spiritual people struggle:
“They look ‘out there’ for solutions.”
We’re talking spiritual influencers, spiritual authority, and what you’re (already) doing instead.
